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Love on the internet: we stopped dating ‘coconuts’ and encountered my own internalised racism

Love on the internet: we stopped dating ‘coconuts’ and encountered my own internalised racism

I happened to be recently enjoying a first date having a charming Indian-Australian guy named Ramesh, when he leaned over conspiratorially and stated, “you know, I’m really a coconut.” Ramesh didn’t have tenuous hold on truth, he didn’t think he had been a real coconut. He had been making use of a shorthand that is quite nicely understood throughout brown communities, to be sure that we knew he wasn’t a typical brown man. Which he had been more white than perhaps not. Brown on the exterior, white in the inside. Continue reading Love on the internet: we stopped dating ‘coconuts’ and encountered my own internalised racism